Belle Knox |
My entire life, I have, along with millions of other girls, been told that sex is a degrading and shameful act. When I was 5 years old and beginning to discover the wonders of my body, my mother, completely horrified, told me that if I masturbated, my vagina would fall off.When the "inner animal" is intentionally and forcefully repressed via arbitrary genger roles, the result is yet another prison of our own making. Nearly every aspect of human life, including copulation, has been triangulated by rules designed to control the "inner animal" and foster "civilization." The "beast" must be exorcized by any means, violent or otherwise.
The most striking view I was indoctrinated with was that sex is something women “have,” but that they shouldn’t “give it away” too soon -– as though there’s only so much sex in any one woman, and sex is something she does for a man that necessarily requires losing something of herself, and so she should be really careful who she “gives” it to.
The prevailing societal brainwashing dictates that sexuality and sex "reduce" women, whereas men are merely innocent actors on the receiving end. By extension, our virginity or abstinence has a bearing on who we are as people -- as good people or bad people, as nice women or bad women.
Women's ability to be moral actors is wholly dependent on their sexuality. It is, honestly, insane.
The virgin-whore dichotomy is an insidious standard that we have unfairly placed upon women. Women are supposed to be outwardly pure and modest, while at thye same time being sexually alluring and available. If a woman does not have sex after a date, she will be labeled as a prude. If she does have sex, she will be referred to later as a ho or a slut.
Society thus sets up a norm in which women simply cannot win.
We must question in this equation why sex workers are so brutally stigmatized. Why do we exclude them for jobs, education, and from mainstream society?
Why do we scorn, threaten and harass them?
Why do we deny them of their personhood?
Why does the thought of a woman having sexual experiences scare us so much?
The answer is simple.
Patriarchy fears female sexuality.
It terrifies us to even fathom that a woman could take ownership of her body. We deem to keep women in a place where they are subjected to male sexuality. We seek to rob them of their choice and of their autonomy. We want to oppress them and keep them dependent on the patriarchy. A woman who transgresses the norm and takes ownership of her body -- because that's exactly what porn is, no matter how rough the sex is -- ostensibly poses a threat to the deeply ingrained gender norms that polarize our society.
The "Blog" Mini-Update®
Many of the postings in the "blog" are completed in haste. Thus, sometimes a revision may appear a few days later. Some revisions have been major, so the postings have been significantly altered.
Homeless Buddy Mini-Update®
My homeless buddy mentioned that a couple of social workers have been asking him about the money that he has been saving and also questioning his alleged disability (which qualifies him for a lifetime of "free" income). He also urged me, once again, to move into the "crack house" in Chinatown.
Slob Manor (Read: Rental Housing) Mini-Update®
The "chef" has apparently hooked up with a 34-year-old chick, who is allegedly a real hottie and a party ho' to boot. She's not the "marrying kind," so the "chef" is fine with them just being "fuck buddies." She appears to be spending money on him as well, so she must believe that he's quite the "catch." There's no stopping the "chef" now. He knows that he's a true "stud."
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